My photography skills need some work yah?
OK, I’ve a bone to pick! It has to do with the touchy subject of friendship. I appreciate honesty. Sometimes it hurts, but I appreciate it. For example: hanging out…that’s what friends do, right? WELL, I happened to move to my old stomping ground right in the thick of a busy holiday season. Here are a list of normal AND acceptable excuses: we have family in town; right now is so busy; I just moved and we are unpacking; this semester of grad school is killing me – maybe in January; and the such… These all seem normal and completely acceptable to me. We are friends. The timing is not right, but it will be and I look forward to that.
What I DON’T like is when friends TRY to squeeze you in. Like when they call and leave a message saying they have this person to see, and then this person, and then this person… and OH they MIGHT be able to see you for ten minutes if you don’t mind meeting me at insert location here. I don’t know when I was last offended on such a grand of scale. A friend called and since the rest of her day was filled with friends, she only had time to go to church with us to hang out. Really? How on earth are we going to catch up on 5 years at church? During the meet and greet? During the sermon? On the way out to the car? I just don’t get it. I’m beyond offended. Honestly, I would have felt LOADS better if she had just said her holiday was jam packed and that she’d have to catch up with me at the next go round – ok, sounds great! But she didn’t. She seemed pretty annoyed that we didn’t have a church yet. She wanted to know details RIGHT THEN. Um, what? So she told me to text her details since she wouldn’t have time to talk to me on the phone. REALLY? So I texted her my feelings that it felt like she was just fitting me in as opposed to actually wanting to hang out. She responded with, “Ok. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.” SERIOUSLY?
How do you handle situations like this? Do you continue to work at the friendship or just let it fade away…until that person has a crisis and calls you again?