Are Children Born Racist?

But first, she’s getting so big and ever so cute!DSCN1189

When it comes to mixed, bi-racial, or minorities… I am a shoe in. Absolutely nobody in their right mind could call me racist, although many have. Due to this, black, white, Hispanic, Asian…all believe I feel the same way they do regardless of having NEVER spoken to them before. Folks…NEVER assume. I’ve seen some photos flying around facebook… “Children Aren’t Born Racist.” I agree, children aren’t BORN racist, but they are BORN seeing race. YOU see race even if you aren’t racist. My girls, from the moment they are born, stare at my white face. They eat staring at my blue eyes and my pale face. So, it should come as no surprise that my girls, until at LEAST age 2, are afraid of black women. They scream. They cry. They run away. And then the lectures begin…”you need to get your girls around black people!” “Your girl is going to grow up white if you don’t get her around black people!” These types of comments no longer offend me, they merely annoy me. Both Gooner AND Sooner saw themselves as white until one day some ignorant kid TOLD them they were different. They saw themselves as white because I am their primary caregiver. They stare at me ALL.DAY.LONG. Yes, they have a black Dad, but they are with me most of the time. Why does this matter? It matters because black women get VERY offended when my black little girl screams and runs away. I normally just tell the women, sorry. That she needs a nap. Because this too shall pass.

Curious yet? My “mixed” or “bi-racial” 6 year old identifies herself as black. She decided that all on her own. She knows she’s different…because she is, but so far it hasn’t been a big deal.

So this thing flying around Facebook about race…you are born loving that person you call Mom. And the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. – Dr. Bill Watson Normally, if a kid is racist so is his/her Mom.

In conclusion, if a child runs away from you…don’t be offended. Stranger danger, you aren’t Mom.



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6 thoughts on “Are Children Born Racist?

  1. Well said. ❤
    My sister has a 1 month old who is bi-racial (my sis is 100% Norwegian and as white as they come and the father is West African and quite dark)… so it will be interesting seeing what challenges she faces growing up in Minneapolis. It's a whole set of parenting concerns I've never had to think about, which is pretty crazy to think about.

  2. Great post. I know many people with bi-racial children and wonder how they deal with this. As for being Hispanic/Filipino growing up in a very white community I identified as “other” from a very young age. It affected me negatively when I was growing up, kids would call me names, etc. But, now? Love and embrace my ethnicity! Your daughter is adorable. 🙂

    • Thank you! I think location matters when it comes to living bi-racially for sure! I’d love to hear more about your experience! I try not to get nasty when people say dumb things because I think most folks are curious!

      On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 5:06 AM, Famille d'Arsenal wrote:


  3. I’ve been missing from the blog scene for a while, but wow – how is your little girl 6?!
    Great post – very well written!

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